The plants for the cat loo died during our absence. Yesterday, I replaced them with some flowers and some green. While I was at it, I bought some huge white chrysanthemums. Despite the lousy stigma that comes with them, I like white flowers because they look so pure.


Since I was taking pics, I decided to take some of Blinky and Tiger for 'Good Fren's viewing pleasure.

It's very difficult to get a good shot of Tiger because he keeps moving, while Blinky is just motionless or moving very s l o w l y.

Something weird is happening. Even though it was uber difficult for me to leave 'Good Fren' in Cambridge, I've been very on the ball about getting things done/meeting people since I got back. Meanwhile, 'Good Fren' finds it difficult to be overly-enthusiastic on his own.

In contrast, when we were back in Cambridge, I would be the 'nuah' one and 'Good Fren' would be up and about doing stuff.

It was never so clear that we rely on each other differently.

Maybe ultimately, we sub/un-consciously (i) subscribe to the social construct of '小女人 vs 大男人', (ii) play those roles to a tee in each other's presence, and (iii) understand very well that an efficient and sustainable partnership requires introspect, reflexivity and flexibility.

During one of the recent catch-up dinners, a well-meaning 'elder' read the abovementioned blog entry, and thought by finding it so difficult to be apart, I had become over-reliant on my relationship with 'Good Fren'. He very gently advised me to 'have my own life', despite being with 'Good Fren'. So sweet!! So happy!! =)))